I love watching Tough Love on VH1! The season just ended last week, but you can watch every episode on VH1.com.
Why should you watch it? It's not a Christian show, but you should DEFINITELY watch this show if you are looking, hoping, and praying for love to come into your life.
The show really shows me the power of change in a woman's life. These girls went through an amazing emotional overhaul as they learned lessons about themselves, life, and love. The lessons that they learned are lessons that all women who are looking for love need to learn.
1. Why guys weren't attracted to them and what they could do to change their minds
Most Cgirls just think, "Oh, that guy's not attracted to me. Nothing I can do about that. Must not be God's will for me." The truth is, you can be more attractive. Learning about how Cguys perceive you (needy, desperate, stupid, too tough, nerdy, annoying, boring, etc.) and learning how to change that are keys to success in dating and love.
2. Issues that keep them from love
In Dating Boot Camp, host Steve Ward (who's a major cutie, btw) helped the girls confront issues in their past that stood in their way: forgiveness, self esteem, body issues, abuse, relationships with their fathers, previous relationships, etc. Once they got down to it, they really grew. Watching this has made me prayerfully confront issues of abuse and body issues that I've struggled with in my own life. I encourage you to do the same. Being saved and in church doesn't mean that you don't have serious issues that you need to confront and be healed from. Seeking help from a trained professional or support group are excellent ways to let go and let God. See if your church has any such classes.
3. How not to be a total sleeve
Steve really took the girls based on their issues and helped them to improve. Golddigger Girl learned to appreciate guys for more than their money. Miss Closed Off learned to be open to love. Miss Tomboy learned not be one of the boys all of the time, etc. I could see little bits of myself in all of the girls on the show. Miss Judgmental learned to not be so judgmental. I used to think, "I've been saved since I was 11. I just don't have any of these issues." I was sooooo wrong. Just because you've been saved since you were 3 cells old doesn't mean you aren't a judgmental, tomboy, golddigger. Saved and beautiful as you are, you can have a myriad of issues that really affect your love life.
4. A change in attitude and behavior go a looooong way
I love watching the girls learn, grow, and change and get good guys. It's amazing to see all of the tiny ways in which their lives have changed for the better. I used to think that my dating fate was set in stone. If I wasn't getting guys, then there was nothing that I could do about it. Let me tell you: the devil is a liar! Watching these once hapless, needy, confused, man-less girls morph into confident, strong, honest women w/boyfriends inspired me. You too, can learn, change your behavior, and walk into the relationship(s) that God has for you.
Love is abundant,
RDH
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